Stacey Covington-Lee

Blog

What about your friends?

Posted on February 7, 2011 at 6:00 AM

Greetings;

 

One of the most important driving forces in our lives are the relationships that we share with others. Relationships with our siblings, our parents, significant others and friends are of great importance to our happiness, well being and some might even say our survival. So naturally we often go above and beyond where we should in an effort to maintain these all important connections.  

 

I've always been the type of person to stand back and observe those around me. Over the years I've watched the interaction between men and their male friends. I've watched how easily they communicate with one another. How simple it seems for them to squash a dispute or decide to walk away from a friend if the relationship becomes toxic. On the other hand, I've observed relationships between females and they are often times anything but simple. Women share a bond with one another that can be stronger than the bond they might share with their spouse. The exchange of information, ideas, secrets and feelings is nothing less than amazing. But there can also be a great deal of drama.

 

I have seen women betray the trust of a beloved friend. I have observed jealousy take control of a woman and cause her to act out viciously against a friend. I have heard of females working diligently to gain the affection of her friends man. And through all of that, I've observed women trying with all their might to hold on to these seemingly harmful frienships.

 

All of that being said, my question of the week is, why is it so difficult for women to turn and walk away from an unhealthy friendship? Is it the shared secrets that sometimes bind women to one another when they both know that the friendship is superficial at best?

 

Peace & Blessings,

Stacey Covington-Lee    

 

 

 

 

Categories: Question of the Week

Post a Comment

Oops!

Oops, you forgot something.

Oops!

The words you entered did not match the given text. Please try again.

Already a member? Sign In

2 Comments

Reply Stacey Henry
9:46 PM on February 23, 2011 
question: All of that being said, my question of the week is, why is it so difficult for women to turn and walk away from an unhealthy friendship? Is it the shared secrets that sometimes bind women to one another when they both know that the friendship is superficial at best?
What is an unhealthly friendship between girlfriends. Is it one may talk/gossip to much? Is it that one feel threatened by the other. No trust, or lack of mutual respect.
Sraight talk.....we all have people/friends in our lives that we would prefer to drop, but we don't. We allow them to hang on. Maybe we need them, Maybe, just maybe they help us with our idenity. As we age, we change, our needs change, so people who we had as friends 5-7 years ago, may not be what you need or want. Is it also possible, if we look in the mirror that we have been that friend who could not be trusted or gossiped. Chances are yes! I take friends with a grain of salt. Each friend of mine, plays a certain role. I know when, how long and how much I can take from them.
Reply Tanya Jones
6:06 PM on February 8, 2011 
I believe women can have a certain dependencyon one another. They are afraid to break the ties, whether they are unhealthy doesn't matter. The fact that they have a relationship is what keeps them intertwined, and it's sometimes the most stable thing they have in their lives. In my opinion there is a lack of self esteem and the belief that they can't form relationships with other women as they get older, so they hold on to the only toxic relatioships that they know. It's unfortunate because I have developed many wonderful relationships in my life as I have gone from my 20's to 30's and now even as I journey through my 40's, I have been blessed with new relationships with women in all walks of life, women who have enriched my life. With that said, I am not afraid to release a relationship if it's not working for me. If you aren't adding value to my life and somehow I don't seem to be adding any to yours, it's time to walk away. Love from a distance. My survivial is dependent on the positive relationships that I can nurture and grow. I'm looking forward to my 50's. : )